My Fashion Style, Deconstructed.
Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue and a Sixpence in her shoe! These are the good luck charms a bride carries on her wedding day. Now, I’m no bride, but you can always count on me to be charming, not for good luck, but for good fashion. I wonder what good luck charms does the groom carry? None! Because its a Man’s world, but that's another post for another day! Ha!
Today, I am not a bride, I am a fashionista, who is married and deeply committed to my own sense of style. I’ve been fascinated with fashion since a very early age, in fact I started reading fashion magazines long before I entered high school. Yup, my ideas of fashion came from the pages in those books, my ideas of beauty came from the black girls on those pages in those books. Fashion for me has always been everything and anything but boring.
Something old for the bride represents continuity. For me, it represents something classic, something refined, something rich with character. It’s timeless not trendy. If I kept it hanging in my closet, I kept it because it was a piece with unique styling, fabric or quality. And speaking of my closet, I love shopping my closet for some of my best pieces to add to the mix!
The sweet part is no one ever guess the old from the new that I’m wearing. They just know that it looks well put together. I get as many compliments whether my pieces were purchased the day before or years before. This all black ensemble I’ve had since 2005 but I promise you it never gets old, every time I wear it, its like it just walked into my life the night before. I’ve only worn it, including for this shoot, maybe four times, but I always hear, that is a bad ass dress, when it’s actually a skirt and top. LOL! And every time I hear this I’m silently saying to myself, yep, I’ll be holding on to this piece for at least another year, or two.
Something new for a bride gives optimism for the future.
Something new gives me life in the present! And I’m always ready to jump into it! LOL! Have you noticed how a new accessory can give new life to an old outfit, making it new all over again. I love the freshness of new, it breathes hope, energy, and confidence into my closet. A new pair of shoes, new dress or a new belt feels like a gift that keeps on giving every time I pair it in a new way. The saying is, it is better to give than receive, but I think that’s backwards. It is nice to give but feels dayum good to receive.
Something borrow symbolizes happiness for the bride. For me, I rarely ever borrow anything, but if ever I do, it must be because it’s necessary or like me, it’s unique. Basic, standard or safe is too boring and life is too short. Something borrowed could also mean for me something second-hand like from an estate sale or thrift store. I can tell you without a doubt, like a treasure hunt, I’ve found many surprise bargains that I would have killed for resale shopping. A bargain, new or old, is a bargain either because of the price or the rarity of the item. For example, a couple of years ago, for $85, I purchased a never before worn, delicious burgundy 2-pc pant suit, by 1980’s french designer, Claude Montana. I would not have been able to get this suit brand new back then even if i had prayed for 40 days and 40 nights. The pants are high-waist and the bodysuit is 100% silk, if you saw me in it you would understand why I said delicious, this suit hugs my curves like velvety soft butter. This piece was previously owned by the estate of Eunice W. Johnson, founder of the Ebony Fashion Fair fashion shows and by all definitions was a helluva bargain.
It has to be something to it or I don't do it! I’ve been obsessed with doing different and being different since forever, it's fun and it's what makes my world go round. What most people don’t know is I had to literally fight for my individuality. I had to choose between being liked or causing confrontation for just being me. And every single time, even it it meant taking an ass whooping, I choose me! The hate and jealousy was real, and more often than not it meant going it alone. Nevertheless, my recommendation is whether it is classic or new, borrowed or resale, have fun with it, go for textures, prints, hardware and bling, as much as your inner self desires.
Something Blue for the bride represents love. For me, it's my love and loyalty to always be bold and striking. and true blue to me! So for me, I'll take something bold, instead of something blue. But don't get me too wrong, because I loooove blue, and the darker the better. I’m not talking blue like blue skies or the blue sea, that’s cute and peaceful, whereas my inner fashion soul is dramatic and sexy. I’m talking navy or midnight blue, both can be as sexy and dramatic as black.
So make it, classic, fresh, different, unique, bold and striking. But keep it you!
So I guess it is very fitting that I would steal this line from an Old English rhyme for my post about me. Something old or classic, something new or fresh, something borrowed or bold and something blue or black is usually what I am wearing. And you can always count on me to keep it classy, sassy, and a little bad assy!
All in all I like to think of myself as modernly traditional, if there is such a thing, if not, oh well, I offer no apology, for making stuff up. Fashion is all about self-expression, it is a collage of how we feel and how we see ourselves. Most importantly when we see ourselves in the mirror, we need to like what we see, and not see conformity, but see our own individual self. Personally, I have lots of fun with just being me, I love my style, and I hope to inspire others to live their best stylish life.
Peace, Love & Happiness! Maria